Mommy-hood My Way

I have been thinking a lot about this blog.  I needed a place to just word vomit what was going through my head but even that was too messy.  I needed a focus or a direction.  While I was on vacation recently I had the best opportunity to be a mom to my little one.  During this time I thought a lot about this blog.  I decided that mommy-hood was going to be my focus.
Before I was a mom, my identity was solely based on my job.  I didn't mind this at all.  I was very proud of what I did every day and for the identity I was creating.  I am still in the same field and proud of my career, but I am more proud of the mommy identity.
While on vacation I was with a very close friend for a day and she gave me the greatest compliment.  She said that I was a good mom.  It nearly brought me to tears.  I appreciated it so much, I doubt she even knew how much.
Mommy-hood is hard.  I am sure every mom out there would agree.  Being a mom is a full time job and it is never perfect.  Mom's don't get the praise and recognition they deserve on a daily basis.  But in my opinion mom's don't do their tasks for these accolades.
In my situation I am a single mom of one.  She is the highlight of my life and I am fortunate to have a great parenting partner in her dad.  Our marriage ended nearly as soon as our parenting started.  I have come to find that we make much better co-parents then man and wife.
There are a lot of things I miss about being married.  Big things of course, but mostly little things.  I miss going out to dinner/date, I miss celebrating anniversaries, hearing compliments, sharing the burden of aging parents, sharing the tasks around the house, sleeping in, and I am sure a thousand other things.  There are few things that I no longer care about or worry about.  Things like caring if my undies/bra match, if I'm late in getting a bikini wax, where things go around the house, negotiating through thermostat wars, etc.
I find it very empowering to take care of my home on my own.  I do it for my own sanity and for my little one.  I love to do things on my own, always have.  I believe that I am setting an example for my child on how to be an independent person.  I love my friends and the support they offer, but I also know that I am strong woman who gets the great privilege to do things my way.
I get to be the mom I want to be and the woman I want to be.
Let's start the journey.